Welcome back everyone to V3 of the Untitled Mailbag.
So, I want to name this mailbag, but I have dug deep and yet to find a name worthy of the title, hence the Untitled Mailbag name. I want your help, help me name the mailbag, you can respond to me on Twitter when I pose the question to all of you or you can email me here: firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also send all your questions for next week’s mailbag there as well. (or on Twitter here.)
Often in life, Men are told to bottle up their emotions and not let things get to them. “Don’t cry it shows weakness”, “don’t like this because it’s not manly”, or “you have to do this because it shows you are a man”. These things are a lot of why boys struggle to become real men.
For me, my struggle started early, I was thrust into becoming a man at a young age and with that comes the “don’t cry, be the man of the house, Ricky, be the emotional backbone that everyone else needs you to be”. I wouldn’t change this as it was at the time, best for my family, but what I want to do is change it for the next kid that could go through something similar.
Mental health isn’t a joke, and saying you are not okay is very much okay, seeking help, is okay, needing someone to be there for you, is okay.
I struggle with expressing my emotions. I put too much on my plate, and it sends my anxiety over the top. I have my hands in so many cookie jars as I like to say, but for me, I like it, I like the crazy, and I struggle to understand it’s okay to slow down though. I do, do (I said doodoo) have issues with not wanting to be stuck in this cube working 9-5 for the rest of my life, I feel like my purpose in life is so much more than this, and I think the biggest battle I fight is not knowing where that purpose is. I am a faithful man. I know God is in control and understanding that he has a plan in place, but I also know that he isn’t going to just give it to me, this is something I’ve been working my whole life for, but I stop sometimes and think to myself: ‘What are you working for’.
I was sitting downstairs yesterday just finished my third podcast of the day, struggling to create these new videos for an upcoming project and I sat there, I called my wife downstairs and I looked at her and I knew at this particular moment, I was on the verge of a mental breakdown. I knew I had to change things.
As I sit here on a Monday morning, I promised myself I would make a schedule for myself, and I did, but I also started writing my You Cannot Kill David Arquette review, and I stopped to write this, baby steps, right?
Lastly, I want these mailbags to be fun, but I also want them to be informative of not just who I am but maybe tell a story that can help someone else. I mean this with everything inside of me, if you need someone to talk to, I am here, DM me, Email me, no matter the day or the night, I am willing to be that ear that you need.
Now, lets transition to some of these questions that you asked me.
Questions from Joseph Harms (@officially_josephy.harms) on IG: Who is the best screenwriter of all-time?
Aaron Sorkin comes to mind. The guy wrote two of the best films of the last decade in The Social Network and Steve Jobs, and if you look deeper into his filmography, he has even more gems ranging from A Few Good Men to Moneyball to Molly’s Games, and the TV shows The West Wing, Sports Night, and The Newsroom.
A few to keep an eye on in the next twenty years: Damien Chazelle, Ryan Coogler, Barry Jenkins, Greta Gerwig, and Lena Waithe.
Questions from Alaina Rivers (@_alainarivers) on IG: Which is better Sprite, 7up, Sierra Mist?
The simple questions of life are always the hardest. So, I kick out 7UP right away as I never like the taste. Sprite, I believe is the best, but I don’t hate Sierre Mist.
Question from Matthew Fox (@Knighthawk7734) on Twitter: What is your most memorable theater experience?
Mr. Fox, this is a hard one. I could talk about the first time I saw La La Land and how I was enamored from it from start to finish. I wanted to turn around and go, see it again. I could do my safe pick and talk about when I saw Avengers Endgame, which is still one of the most amazing experiences ever.
But honestly, I would say Parasite is one of those films that changed the way I saw the film for the rest of my life. I will be 100% honest, I have never been a huge foreign film guy, they always scared me, and while I have enjoyed plenty of them, the film has got to just WOW me from the beginning.
I walked into Parasite understanding that the hype around this film was INSANE. I walked in and opened my mind to the endless possibilities that this film could bring.
I have never been so shaken by a film in my life. I sat in my chair for twenty minutes after just a loss for words that I had just witnessed one of the greatest pieces of filmmaking ever. It was crafted in a way that not a lot of films are capable of doing. It was one of the genreless films. It was comedic, thrilling, horror-ish, heartfelt, drama, it was everything in one.
Bong Joon Ho changed my life that day, I have since watched that film five times, and it gets better and better with each viewing.
Question from Jacob Dunne (@AintDunneYet) on Twitter: Who are your favorite Devy Players in the Pac-12?
Kedon Slovis is hands down one of the best quarterbacks in college football. What he was capable of doing in his freshman year was nothing short of amazing. I only believe he will continue to grow into himself, and I think he will be the first Quarterback taken in the 2022 draft.
Brant Kuithe, the tight end out of Utah, is another George Kittle, which I know is high praise, but his game is very similar to his. He can lineup anywhere on the field. He can catch, block, run routes, and he is sneaky fast.
Other guys I like: Jermar Jefferson, Amon-Ra St. Brown, Tyler Vaughns, Jayden Daniels, Christopher Brown Jr.
Question from my good friend Kenzie Vanunu (@kenzvanunu) on Twitter: What movie do you think Marty (Martin Scorsese) should have won for Director before (or after) The Departed?
Scorsese was nominated five times before finally winning at the 2007 Oscars for the Departed. The nominations included Raging Bull, The Last Temptation of Christ, Goodfellas, Gangs of New York, and The Aviator.
He has three nominations since winning for Hugo, The Wolf of Wall Street, and The Irishman. Yeah, just gave those of you at home the history of the Academy and Marty, but I did it for a reason.
His first nomination came in 1981 for Raging Bull, but this means he did not get nominated for Taxi Driver, which is an absolute travesty as that film is perfection, but let’s face it, that was Rocky’s year, so nomination yes, winning no. We could talk about 1982, but Kings of Comedy vs. Gandhi and even E.T., so nope not this year either.
In 1986 Martin Scorsese made one of my all-time favorite films, Color of Money. The film was nominated for four academy awards. Best Supporting Actress, Best Screenplay, Best Art/Set Direction, and Best Actor in a Leading Role (Cruise was robbed), the film won ONE Oscar and funny enough it is Paul Newman’s only win of his career (9 nominations). Marty was robbed as Color of Money is brilliantly laid out from the angles of the shots, the layers of the film, and how he just absolutely knocked it out of the ballpark. He should have beaten Platoon, sorry, not sorry.
Thank you so much for reading another episode of my weekly mailbag, hit me up on here or talk to me on Twitter with your questions @RickyValero_